Ask Dr. Rasaf: Love, Logic, and Spelunking

When hearts get tangled in transporter beams and decisions cross quadrants, Dr. Yellia Rasaf is here to offer her signature blend of candour, wit, and Federation-certified wisdom. This week, a marine biologist on Petraa III writes in with a classic conundrum: stay grounded in the life you’ve built, or risk a long-distance love that feels like destiny?

Dr. Yellia Rasaf weighs in—with no punches pulled.

Dear Dr. Rasaf,

I’m a Nuvian marine biologist researching spelunks on Petraa III. This past year, I met a Remmilian man and have fallen very deeply in love. (I didn’t think I was capable of it!)

He’s extremely kind, generous, considerate, passionate, thoughtful, attractive, outdoorsy, and adventurous. But he is soon moving to Andor to pursue his career on Issa. I’m happy that he will be doing what he loves, But I’m so sad to lose him! He feels the same about me.

I’m not interested in a long-distance relationship—it seems irrational to commit to someone when we have no future plans to live in the same area. I’m so frustrated by it all! He wants to be in the cold Andorian mountains, and my life is by the Petraa sea. What are we to do?

—Sidetracked on Petraa

Dear Sidetracked:

What are you talking about?

Didn’t you surprise yourself when you fell in love? Your exact words: “I didn’t think I was capable of it!” And now you’re so wise in the ways of love you won’t even consider your new boyfriend’s happiness?

You refuse to try—repeat, try—a six-month long-distance relationship?

Give it a whirl. The spelunks, I believe, will back me up.

– Dr. Yellia Rasaf

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About Yellia Rasaf

Yellia Rasaf, M.D., PhD. is an Argelian psychiatrist who writes an advice column for the Federation News Service. Dr. Rasaf has multiple degrees in psychiatry, psychology, cultural xenopsychology, cultural xenoanthropology and is licensed to practice on all Federation member worlds.

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